"It Works!" by RHJ ~ Full Transcript & Review of "The Famous Little Red Book That Makes Your Dreams Come True!"

Below is "It Works!" with my review in red letters. I shouldn't say much here, so I'll leave my review and the text of "It Works!" to speak for itself. Enjoy, in joy! ~ JVR

IT WORKS by RHJ ~ oooh, mysterious anonymous author could suck people in or deter them, what do you choose? Matters not to me...
"The Famous Little Red Book That Makes Your Dreams Come True!" ~ the book does not do anything. YOU do it all. The book just has The Plan written inside. I like the enthusiasm though.
*the author sent the manuscript of this book for criticism to a friend who returned it with the notation, "It WORKS. (from JFS)" This judgement born of experience was adopted as the title of the book. - Publishers ~ Short and sweet. I like it already.
"All who joy would win must share it, Happiness is born a twin." - BYRON ~ I do not know who Byron is, but not only is the author mysterious, but the publishing company too. Dig into it all, it'll take you places... oh, it will.

Copyright 1926, 1953
ISBN: 978-087516-323-9
Forty-fourth Printing, 2008

DeVorss & Company, Publisher
PO Box 1389
Camarillo, CA 93011-1389
www.devorss.com

A concise, definite, resultful plan with rules, explanations and suggestions for bettering your condition in life.

If you KNOW what you WANT you can HAVE IT ~ I find this a bit misleading and contradictory for them to put out there so boldly as the whole book seems to center on the key of knowing HOW to go about the getting part. Just knowing and wanting does not mean you can have it.

The man who wrote this book is highly successful and widely known for his generosity and helpful spirit. he gives full credit for all that he has accomplished in mastering circumstances, accumulating wealth, and winning friends to the silent working out of the simple, yet powerful truth which he tells of in his work. He shows you here an easy, open road to a larger, happier life. Knowing that the greatest good comes from helping others without expecting praise, the author of this work has requested that his name be omitted.

WHAT IS THE REAL SECRET OF OBTAINING DESIRABLE POSSESSIONS?
Are some people born under a lucky star or other charm which enables them to have all that which seems so desirable, and if not, what is the cause of the difference in conditions under which men live?

Many years ago, feeling that there must be a logical answer to this question, I decided to find out, if possible, what it was. I found the answer to my own satisfaction, and for years, have given the information to others who have used it successfully.

From a scientific, psychological or theological viewpoint, some of the following statements may be interpreted as incorrect, but nevertheless, the plan has brought the results desired to those who have followed the simple instructions, and it is my sincere belief that I am now presenting it in a way which will bring happiness and possessions to many more.

"If wishes were horses, beggars would ride," is the attitude taken by the average man and woman in regard to possessions. They are not aware of a power so near that it is overlooked; so simple in operation that it is difficult to conceive, and so sure in results that it is not made use of consciously, or recognized as the cause of failure or success.

"Gee, I wish that were mine," is the outburst of Jimmy, the office boy, as a new red roadster goes by; and Florence, the telephone operator, expresses the same thought regarding a ring in the jeweler's window; while poor old Jones, the bookkeeper, during the Sunday stroll, replies to his wife, "Yes, dear, it would be nice to have a home like that, but it is out of the question. We will have to continue to rent." Landem, the salesman, protests that he does all the work, gets the short end of the money and will some day quit his job and find a real one, and President Bondum, in his private sanctorum, voices a bitter tirade against the annual attack of hay-fever.

At home it is much the same. Last evening, father declared that daughter Mabel was headed straight for disaster, and today, mother's allowance problem and other tring affairs fade into insignificance as she exclaims, "This is the last straw. Robert's school teacher wants to see me this afternoon. His reports are terrible, I know, but I'm late for Bridge now. She'll have to wait until tomorrow." So goes the endless stream of expressions like these from millions of people in all classes who give no thought to what they really want, and who are getting all they are entitled to or expect. ~ reminds me of when I heard the song "Just" by Radiohead for the first time... "you do it to yourself, you do and that's what really hurts. you do it to yourself just you, you and no one else, you do it to yourself."

If you are one of these millions of thoughtless talkers or wishers and would like to decided change from your present condition, you can have it; but first of all you must know what you want and this is no easy task. When you can train your OBJECTIVE MIND (the mind you use everyday) to decide definitely upon the things or conditions you desire, you will have taken your first big step in accomplishing or securing what you know you want.

To get what you want is no more mysterious or uncertain than the radio waves all around you. Tune in correctly and you get a perfect result, but to do this it is, of course, necessary to know something of your equipment and have a plan of operation. ~ humans operate on a miniscule frequency of an eternal, consciousness radio of the All. To think we know anything is hilarious to me, but probably blasphemous in the face of the Universal Mind.

You have within you a mighty power, anxious and willing to serve you, a power capable of giving you that which you earnestly desire. This power is described by Thomson Jay Hudson, Ph.D., LL.D., author of "The Law of Psychic Phenomena," as your SUBJECTIVE MIND. Other learned writers use different names and terms, but all agree that it is omnipotent. Therefore, I call this Power "Emmanuel" (God in us). ~ my Grampa's middle name is Emmanuel. I wonder if he ever read this book?

Regardless of the name of this Great Power, or the conscious admission of a God, the Power is capable and willing to carry to a complete and perfect conclusion every earnest desire of your objective mind, but you must be really in earnest about what you want. ~ a great question to be asked over and over... are you EARNEST? What does your heart say? Where is your heart? STOP THINKING, especially with your Left-brain!

Occasional wishing or half-hearted wanting does not form a perfect connection or communication with your omnipotent power. You must be in earnest, sincerely and truthfully desiring certain conditions or things - mental, physical, or spiritual.

Your objective mind and will are so vacillating that you usually only WISH for things and the wonderful, capable power within you does not function.

Most wishes are simply coval expressions. Jimmy, the office boy, gave no thought of possessing the red roadster. Landem, the salesman, was not thinking of any other job or even thinking at all. President Bondum knew he had hay fever and was expecting it. Father's business was quite likely successful, and mother no doubt brought home first prize from the Bridge party that day, but they had no fixed idea of what they really wanted their children to accomplish and were actually helping to bring about the unhappy conditions which existed.

If you are in earnest about changing your present condition, here is a concise, definite, resultful plan, with rules, explanations and suggestions.

THE PLAN
Write down on paper in order of their importance the things and conditions you really want. Do not be afraid of wanting too much. Go the limit in writing down your wants. Change the list daily, adding to or taking from it, until you have it about right. Do not be discouraged on account of changes, as this is natural. There will always be changes and additions with accomplishments and increasing desires.

THREE POSITIVE RULES OF ACCOMPLISHMENT
1) Read the list of what you want three times each day: morning, noon, and night.
2) Think of what you want as often as possible.
3) Do not talk to anyone about your plan except to the Great Power within you which will unfold to your Objective Mind the method of accomplishment.

It is obvious that you cannot acquire faith at the start. Some of your desires, from all practical reasoning, may seem positively unattainable, but, nevertheless, write them down on your list in their proper place of importance to you.

There is no need to analyze how this Power within you is going to accomplish your desires. Such a procedure is as unnecessary as trying to figure out why a grain of corn placed in fertile soil shoots up a green stalk, blossoms and produces an ear of corn containing hundreds of grains, each capable of doing what the one grain did. If you will follow this definite plan and carry out the three simple rules, the method of accomplishment will unfold quite as mysteriously as the ear of corn appears on the stalk, and in most cases much sooner than you expect. ~ Sounds easy right?
When new desires, deserving position at or about the top of your list, come to you, then you may rest assured you are progressing correctly.

Removing from your list items which at first you thought you wanted, is another sure indication of progress.

It is natural to be skeptical and have doubts, distrust and questionings, but when these thoughts arise, get out your list. Read it over; or if you have it memorized, talk to your inner self about your desires until the doubts that interfere with your progress are gone. Remember, nothing can prevent your having that which you earnestly desire. Others have these things. Why not you? ~ I do not like those last two sentiments... it seems "It Works!" gets a bit materialistic, but maybe that's my ego rearing its ugly head? What do you feel about that?

The Omnipotent Power within you does not enter into any controversial argument. It is waiting and willing to serve when you are ready, but your objective mind is so susceptible to suggestion that it is almost impossible to make any satisfactory progress when surround by skeptics. Therefore, choose your friends carefully and associate with people who now have some of the things you really want, but do not discuss your method of accomplishment with them.

Put down on your list of wants such material things as money, home, automobile, or whatever it may be, but do not stop there. Be more definite. If you want an automobile, decide what kind, style, price, color, and all the other details, including when you want it. If you want a home, plan the structure, grounds and furnishings. Decide on location and cost. If you want money, write down the amount. If you want to break a record in your business, put it down. It may be a sales record. If so, write out the total, the date required, then the number of items you must sell to make it, also list your prospects and put after each name the sum expected. This may seem very foolish at first, but you can never realize your desires if you do not know positively and in detail what you want and when you want it. If you cannot decide this, you are not in earnest. You must be definite, and when you are, results will be surprising and almost unbelievable.

A natural and ancient enemy will no doubt appear when you get your first taste of accomplishment. This enemy is Discredit, in form of such thoughts as: "It can't be possible; it just happened to be. What a remarkable coincidence!"

When such thoughts occur give thanks and assert credit to your Omnipotent Power for the accomplishment. By doing this, you gain assurance and more accomplishment, and in time, prove to yourself that there is a law, which actually works-at all times-when you are in tune with it.

Sincere and earnest thanks cannot be given without gratitude and it is impossible to be thankful and grateful without being happy. Therefore, when you are thanking your greatest and best friend, your Omnipotent Power, for gifts received, do so with all your soul, and let it be reflected in your face. The Power and what it does is beyond understanding. Do no try to understand it, but accept the accomplishment with thankfulness, happiness, and strengthened faith.



CAUTION ~ BE SURE TO READ THIS!
It is possible to want and obtain that which will make you miserable; that which will make you miserable; that which will wreck the happiness of others; that which will cause sickness and death; that which will rob you of eternal life. You can have what you want, but you must take all that goes with it: so in planning your wants, plan that which you are sure will give to you and your fellow man the greatest good here on earth; thus paving the way to that future hope beyond the pale of human understanding.

This method of securing what you want applies to everything you are capable of desiring and the scope being so great, it is suggested that your first list consist of only those things with which you are quite familiar, such as an amount of money or accomplishment, or the possession of material things. Such desires as these are more easily and quickly obtained than the discontinuance of fixed habits, the welfare of others, and the healing of mental or bodily ills.

Accomplish the lesser things first. Then take the next step, and when that is accomplished, you will seek the higher and really important objectives in life, but long before you reach this stage of your progress, many worthwhile desires will find their place on your list. One will be to help others as you have been helped. Great is the reward to those who help and give without thought of self, as it is impossible to be unselfish without gain.

IN CONCLUSION
A short while ago, Dr. Emil Coue came to this country and showed thousands of people how to help themselves. Thousands of people how to help themselves. Thousands of others spoofed at the idea, refused his assistance and are today where they were before his visit.

So with the statements and plan presented to you now. You can reject or accept. You can remain as you are or have anything you want. The choice is yours, but God grant that you may find in this short volume the inspiration to choose aright, follow the plan and thereby obtain, as so many others have, all thing, whatever they may be, that you desire. ~ Is not every moment a choice? The eternal laugh... a vibration of the Divine!
IT WORKS
Read the entire book over again, and again, AND THEN AGAIN. Memorize the three simple rules on pages thirteen and fourteen. Test them now on what you want most this minute. This book cold have extended easily over 350 pages, but it has been deliberately shortened to make it as easy as possible for you to read, understand and use. Will you try it? Thousands of bettered lives will testify to the fact that IT WORKS.

A LETTER TO YOU FROM THE AUTHOR
Dear Reader: The great possessions in life are all GIFTS mysteriously bestowed: sight, hearing, aspiration, love or life itself. The same is true of ideas-the richest of them are given to us, as for instance, the powerful idea which this book has given you. What are you going to do with it? Are you surprised when I tell you the most profitable thing you can do is to give it away? You can do this in an easy and practical way by having this book sent to those you know who NEED IT. In this way, you can help in the distribution of this worthwhile effort to make the lives of others better and happier. You know people who are standing still or who are worried and discouraged. This is your chance to HELP THEM HELP THEMSELVES. If you withhold this book from them you will lose the conscious satisfaction that comes from doing good. If you see that they get this book, then you put yourself in line with the Law of Life which says, "You get by giving," and you may rightly expect prosperity and achievement. At the very least you will have the inner sense of having done a good deed with no hope of being openly thanked and your reward will come secretly in added power and larger life.
~ THE AUTHOR ~ So, I believe this is another grand tool that has helped me build the reality of the Now I am currently occupying. I hoped to share this with many and All. Please have feedback for me and others and share til your heart's content. Thank you for visiting and reading. Namaste ~ YHVH, Om. ~ JVR

BULLETPROOF COFFEE will change your life. Thank you Dave Asprey!

From the first moment I tasted "coffee," I hated coffee. Someone gave me a poisonous concoction at a bowling alley when I was 11 or so. Fake sugar, fake cream, and probably Folger's in my cup. I was traumatized for years. Then I started smoking cigarettes. Then I started drinking coffee again to compliment the smokes... I then took it just black, of course. Still, I only did it for social reasons. It meant nothing to me except that I looked cool (yeah, right).

Fast forward a dozen or so years... I stumbled upon this man, Dave Asprey. I will let you make your own mind up about him, but let me tell you about "his" coffee. He calls it "Bulletproof Coffee" (BPC) and I FUCKING LOVE IT. I can probably see myself drinking this every day for the rest of my life. Dead serious. I makes me feel so good, I cannot even explain it. It tastes sooooo good. I'll tell you why in a second, but you have to understand the whole "Bulletproof" philosophy first to fully understand the importance of the BPC... even if you do not read any further, I feel my job is done here. Go to his website, twitter, and "newspaper" and read and read and read, over and over and over again... then start drinking BPC ~ http://www.bulletproofexec.com/how-to-make-your-coffee-bulletproof-and-your-morning-too/

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First, take the best quality coffee you can find (check his website for the details, it is VERY important and specific... keep searching, usually it takes a while to find what is considered Bulletproof, unless you immediately buy Asprey's coffee from his website which is hella expensive. Probably worth it, but still, its like everything in the Bulletproof world, you can work your way up to the best if you're working within a strict budget)... add the best butter you can find (Grass-fed is the key here; Kerrygold is Irish grass-fed butter than I've been told you can even find at Walmart. Probably the most widely distributed of the sort, but strive to find local, organic, grass-fed butter from local farmers)... add MCT oil/Coconut oil. MCT is short for "medium chain triglycerides" and Asprey sells a form of concentrated oil (you can find other brands on Amazon/Ebay of course) in which the MCTs are taken out of the Coconut (or Palm kernel) oil, so it is 6x the potency of Coconut oil (coconut oil is about 66% MCTs)...

So you start your day with around a 20 ounce drink of 16oz coffee, 2 T of butter and 3 T of coconut oil... FAT FAT FAT!!! but GOOD fats and a touch of antioxidants and caffeine to get your system going and stable energy flowing through your body for hours.

Trust me, I cannot do this justice. I do not have the science and details that Asprey gives away on his website(s). Go there, do the homework and you'll see. I'm seeing changes in my performance, physical appearance, and how I think and feel already and its been barely 2 weeks on BPC... I have started incorporating BP diet habits into my eating and I love them just the same. It is a shock to our minds because it is so different from what mainstream America has said about food, diet, and life, but it feels SO RIGHT.

Take the bait and see what you feel... dont think too much, eh? Let me know in the COMMENTS section. Thanks to All.

YHVH, Om,
JVR.

840 Hours: 35 Days: 5 Weeks: 1 Love

the Earth is a celestial living being. It's Life, which is ours as it's gift, is grand indeed. It is growing, changing, and sleeps not all at once, but in cycles and circles. the Earth is connected to the Sun, in all ways, truly connected; of the same matter. The changes in and on everything in our Solar System (and others), not just here on Earth, are constantly and continually happening. Our awareness of them happening is continually growing and the spiral is constricting by the moment.

"Oh Lord, will a mother ever mention something sweeter than the sound of her baby laughing?"

In the next 5 weeks (35 days), the stars will align in 1) ways, familiar ways 2) alignments of the highest repeated aligned in modern conscious history 3) all at once 4) again 5) and you are a part of It. You are doing this as we All are. You determine, not just your own involvement (you chose that eons ago, that is why you are here) but the levels of mercy and severity for that which you experience moments as a human that is now being. Listen to your sacred Heart for it has all the answers, for it Is the celestial manifestation of the All, within us. It cannot live without us. I love you. Om. Namaste.

"to laugh is to be in-joyment... the sacred vibration that connects us as the All." ~ JVR

BILL DONAHUE ~ (update: WATER!) HIDDEN MEANINGS.com ~ LET YOUR MIND BE BORN, riiiiiight NOW.

I do not like the term "born again" or even "reborn" ~ that being said, I love the idea (there it is in itself) that every moment is an opportunity to create a new light/life/consciousness within your heart. "Eternal Photon"... ? Is the mind a conduit that should be left empty in order for the Love to be welcomed into your Being? Emptying the mind is a challenge unto each individual. I believe it would be wise to urge you to meditate and do yoga as much as possible for, in conjunction with healthy eating and the overall nutritional life (which may include dietary and medicinal plants such as cannabis, mushrooms or ayahuasca), laughter, love, and intimacy/sex bring a holistic foundation for bliss.

Then we have this man. Bill Donahue. This is his website: http://hiddenmeanings.com/ ~ Believe what you will, but if you need or want to sit in front of a television or computer screen anytime soon, PLEASE watch AT LEAST this video. I love his words and intent. It sets me free and empowers my soul. I cannot put into words really, the love I feel when getting into this zone he creates. A hero in my heart... this first short video is Bill and his wife Joan, explaining how they started HiddenMeanings.com (please go to the website and read his story before you make any judgements)

Bill uses all knowledge and wisdom he can to paint pictures that are cradles for one's soul as it exists in this consciousness realm. Yoga, Astrology, Pineal Gland, Meditation, Krishna, Buddha, Christianity, Islam, Hindu, Kabala, Judaism, UFOs, Kybalion (http://www.kybalion.org), Babylon, Thoth/Hermes, Ancient Egypt, Sumerian, and the list goes on. Practice the single-eye consciousness... cast your energy to the right side!

Before the "heavy" stuff, let's get into something that BINDS US ALL! WATER!!! The source of all life? Well, if you think water is solar light in liquid form... liquid photon? Then water is... well, we all have different feelings about that aspect of water, but we can ALL agree that water is the clear stuff we drink to stay hydrated. Simple. EVERYONE drinks water. This next couple paragraphs are for EVERYONE and specifically the adults and parents who have the power and influence to make water that is as clean and healthy as possible, a big part of their life and the one's they are responsible for's life. Please take a second to read. Thanks!


"I believe I am on a mission to present the means for my fellow humans to realize the height of the most grand, energy-filled, lovely clean WATER! http://BigBerkeyFilters.blogspot.com is my new blog to help distribute New Millennium Concepts, LTD's "Berkey Water Purification Systems & Elements" ~ a line of water units and much more. For now, please take note that this is a portal of contact in order for you to get this next phase going. Like everything, change starts within our hearts and then minds, so I will understand doubt and skepticism. I am road-proven and can take any answer, question, or criticism. I am a military veteran who has been around the globe and tasted many of waters. I study the human body and have past graduated with a degree in Behavioral Science with an emphasis on Alcohol, Drugs, Pharmacology, & Counseling, which lead me to understand our body's need for a healthy, holistic environment to thrive in. Also, I am a decade-long student of Bikram Yoga, so I drink enormous amounts of water. I believe I was blessed with more experience than the average Joe when it comes to water. Oh, and I am a water sign, Scorpio, if that matters to anyone :) ~ That being written, the BEST WATER on Earth now comes out of a "Black Berkey" carbon filter with additional Fluoride/Arsenic filters attached. I have never heard anyone say that it wasn't delicious and that they did not notice a difference for the better. And it's "Best" as in the best sourced as coming out of faucets first; some natural pristine springs are probably still best, but who knows if those still exist? I'd love to hear of some if you care to share!

I offer FREE assistance for you to custom fit any combination of systems, shower filters, sport portable water bottles, etc. ~ from any individual up to any large family, its just a "Yes" away. Please, if you have not already, look into the truth about the exact water you’re drinking from what source, who's in charge, what do they put in it, etc. The human body is MADE OF WATER! That begs the question: what is your water made of?

Please go here to see what products are available: http://berkeywater.com/start.main.html ***These prices DO NOT reflect current prices. Ask me about your needs and I will work with what you can afford to do. ***USE AS REFERENCE ONLY***!

Email me at ~ springforth07@hotmail.com ~ I am available at anytime. I can personally assist you and walk you thru the decision to purchase what unit or unit/combo is best for you and your family. Assembly, use, trouble-shooting, disposal, I am here. I’ve seen and done it all and want to share this PRICELESS reality of near perfect WATER. It may sound cheesy and unreal, but I am so excited about the time I dedicate to Berkey. I am passionate about a product that I have used for years and to be honest, it has made me a water snob, ha! But I wouldn't want it any other way now! I have never been healthier and/or happier and I certainly attribute my bliss to the foundation of life that this amazing water creates inside of my body. Hope to talk to you soon. Drink up, Cheers!"

"Jesus Walks on Water"

and this one... "Krishna The Water Lily is Dry"

Now back to the fun stuff. Let's get weird. Its the most fun! And controversial to some, but hey, I'm always one to push buttons to see what happens, hehehe...

RELIGION IS A CULT ^^^ ~ I do not believe in "religion" for I am a spiritual light being who is having a human experience. God has no religion and I am part of and one with God if I so believe and know it to be true in my sacred heart.

What Bill speaks of is the true empowering spirit of God's love and light inside of us All. This is the stuff that all the human "authorities" from the Vatican on down, DO NOT want you to hear, contemplate, and/or know. Because this DISSOLVES culture and religion. This dissolves the fake authority they have vested in themselves and placed over you without your consent. For they are the reflection of evil and the misguided mind.

Good thing is that you have the power to make them irrelevant in your world. It is just a choice... Love or Fear. What do you choose? Jesus is a rebel and a hero of mine as well... are you sure you know him as well as you think you do? That's the problem many of us have. STOP THINKING. It fucks everything up. Empty the mind ;) ask questions fuheva... was Jesus a Myth? Buddha real? Krishna? Muhammad? Allegories or sages, prophets and or.... what? Stop thinking! I caught you... ha

Jesus Was a Myth Part 1 ^^^ ~ Seek wisdom and try to be it... like yoga, you do not DO yoga, you attempt to BE yoga. In my experience, i love "Bikram" yoga. It is not a "pure" yoga, it has been taken from the full 88 posture-series and commercialized into a 26 posture beginner's course by the founder, Bikram Choudhury, but i thank him for his vision and he can do what he wants with his "company" - it is an amazing gift, a moving meditation and it brings joy in multi-dimensional form. Not only did it grant me wisdoms and will continue to do so, but it changed my physical body forever and I am grateful, wholeheartedly to Bikram for that. I urge you to find a yoga practice that fits you. It creates love. So why not right? In the video above, there are nuggets of fun wisdom... are you a Nazarene?

Another fun aspect of Bill's presentations is how he weaves the Zodiac/Astrology into it all... he does all the signs individually. This is mine as I am a Scorpio. If you want to understand me a bit more, watch it. If not, do not. If you want to watch yours, its there, just look for it.

So, to wrap this up and to send you on your way to Bill's YouTube channel for hours of goodness and all the consequences of your intent for years to come on this Earth and beyond... I say thank you all and if you do have a bit to sit back and relax to watch one more video, this is one of my favorites so far ~ HiddenMeanings.com!!! Below is the video named "Mind Change & OM" Its a key!!! Do you have the will to open the door? Namaste.

love, JVR

SEX: TAGGING OF ALL SORTS ~ STD AWARENESS MONTH IS OVER... (Choose Wisely)

A welcomed (slight) change to the death metal boogie of ancient hallows and future ends that the BornInTheCall communication system has recently become. Let's talk about Sex and STDs and all the shit that comes along with it, eh? Fun fun fun, but mad serious. Not only did I hear an En Vogue song yesterday that made me think of Salt N Pepa today (no you neva gonna get it, neva neva gunna git it), but I had a conversation with a close friend about sex. It is fun talking sex with experienced women who know themselves and are honest and open. A man can learn a lot if he just shut up for a second. Which I did. Various subtopics arose during our exchange, but the realization of the enormity of risk in these modern times for sex lives is what stuck with me... kinda like the crushing blow it must be to one's psyche when they find out that they have acquired a STD that sticks with them their entire life. Ok, not THAT serious, but still, listen...

The fact I learned for which prompted this entry is that my friend has a friend who has had four (4) sexual partners in their lifetime. Four. Whether or not you think that is a lot of partners or not, is a reflection of your own sexual life experiences. As a 31 year old single man, if I had only been with 4 women, I can guess the general consensus would be that is a very low number. Not sure if potential partners would feel good about that or think I was lame, but in the end, does it really matter? As long as you have chemistry in bed with the one you love at the moment, that's all that counts. Not the past or future, just the now, right? So, I could find statistics on averages and such, but that is boring. All I know is that there is no number that should be a goal to reach or that even just having one partner is not perfect for that individual. Truth is, its your choice and your perspective and motives for experiencing sex, or whatever you describe the act as. Also, everyone fucks differently. Everyone makes love in their own way. Therein, lie the infinite shades of desire, intimacy, unlawful carnal knowledge, lust, jealousy, fever, and dare I say empathy and compassion... Sex is fun and healthy, but like anything else we can imagine, it can be addictive, destructive, and painfully abused for all the wrong reasons. Obviously a necessity for our species :/ but I digress...

The friend of my friend acquired the Herpes Simplex Virus or HSV Type II (most common) or HSV Type I (cold sores, oral)! The HERP! Yikes it gives me the creepy crawlies (i was gonna say willies, but there's enough sexual pun in here already.. or no?) just typing it. Yuck.... and just 4 people. Shoot, I'm sure there are cases in which the person lost their virginity to someone who gave them a STD. That's just criminal right there. Actually, it probably is a crime in some places to knowingly be positive for a STD and have unprotected sex with someone who did not know this fact. How sick are some people?

But you read what I typed right? Only 4 sexual partners and the person is living with this disease that will change their life in such a drastic way... either they will be purchasing a prescription for Valtrex or whatever HSV suppressant pharmaceutical drug that costs a ton I'm guessing... or, you know we do not have to get into it all right now, but just know that the healthy sex life of this person is fundamentally changed forever. That's a fact. Just like the fact that sex is not what it used to be. As humans (d)evolve, so does the complexity and mortality, urgency, and importance.

The conversation kinda strolled into the area of "how important IS the number of sexual partners in someone's life?" and "always wear a condom unless you are ready for a child. period. there is no argument around that." Lucky enough I am blessed to have known so many people with varying narratives to their sex lives, so I've learned from my environment damn well. I know people who have been burnt, I know people with kids they did not plan for, I know people who have been raped and had abortions, I know people who have practiced safe sex and are both clean and baby-free. I know guys who owe crazy amounts of child-support and women who waste that money on themselves instead of the child. I know men who have stepped up to the plate and provide for their child and mothers who either use the child-support money the right way and/or are responsible women who not only work, but run their household like a boss. The whole gamut is represented here so it shows how many choices we have. Which road do you want to go down? It is ALWAYS your choice. Always yours and yours alone.

Also lucky for me, I get free annual tests from my VA Primary Care physician to help reinforce that I'm doing things right. Its like turning in your book report early to the teacher to see if all your references check out and if you dotted your tease and crossed your eyes. I suggest that everyone get tested for everything annually. It takes a couple minutes of your time and could save not only your life, but others as well.

Sex is a very messy, passionate, and powerful act, idea, topic of discussion and bewildering economy. It is misunderstood and romanticized, it is ridiculed and idolized. Sex is not only a human act, but it is the only way humans can experience each other in certain ways unspeakable. It is creation and the little death. You are at you're most vulnerable and yet sometimes, most empowered. You see life clearly through your lover's eyes, but lust can come along and blurrrrr all the lines.

As this is the last day of STD Awareness Month, I am paying tribute to the wisdom of many from my generation that have been safe and not been careless with their bodies... KUDOS TO YOU! And if you're old and ignorant or young and ignorant, its never too late. Guys: WRAP IT UP & DAM IT UP ~ Girls: DEMAND SAFETY & DO NOT COMPROMISE YOURSELF FOR A MAN'S ATTENTION.

P.S. - Ladies, I have an idea for you, being a man who's experienced all different kinds relationships. Consider doing and/or telling your fellow women to save the oral sex for AFTER you get married or enter into a healthy, committed relationship. It is safe and more fun that way and after the honeymoon sex-phase is over, its better than not having sex at all or very infrequently as many busy, working adults in marriages or committed relationships complain of, especially after the 5-6 year mark of said relationship. And double-ly especially after you have kids, from what I've been told. So, if there is unprotected mouth sex happening, STOP (you're giving head with condoms on? gimme a break) and save it for the one you truly love in times when this kind of action, reaction, solution (haha, get it?) is desperately needed. "I'll settle for a cup of coffee, but you know what I really need." Is this not a grand idea? It will be a clean and positive force in your relationship, trust me. Remember, you get what you give, so if you want Mr. Hubby to go downtown... oh, you know what I'm saying. Lastly, if you cheat, you deserve the nasty STD you get, whatever it may be. You better learn your lesson!

MAKE SEX, NOT WAR. SPREAD WISDOM, NOT STDs.

Peace,

oxoBitCxox